My favourite film isn't ALL about that beach house...
At 49 ¾ I had an epiphany, otherwise known as a Fuck It moment.
A fallout with a neighbour instigated what was to become the biggest transformation in my life.
My boyfriend of over 9 years and I decided after I had been in tears for half an hour, that we were going to move to our holiday home in France & semi-retire.
Bosh. Job done.
The life that we had known independently of each other as well as these years together was about to shift in ways we couldn't have imagined.
Sourced image from Architectural Digest - see more on Nancy's Instagram page
Something's Gotta Give is one of my favourite films. Who doesn't love a Nancy Meyers gorgeously curated romcom?
The first 12 times I watched it, it was all about the gorgeousness of it. The next 27 times it was a realisation that I was watching two people in their 50's & 60's realise that they were missing something vital in their lives.
Despite massive success, you can see it dawn on them that the way they had done things for years, was no longer serving them.
Holding onto their way of life, "hey if it aint broke" is what many of us do isn't it?
But an awakening, a chance meeting, an unfair bollocking, a big birthday, a death, can all contribute to your own realisation that life can be different.
The fork in the road. It can have several prongs.
Which way do you go? Stay safe & carry on with the devil you know?
Or decide that you really DO love sex, can't hide from Love, and don't want to wander around the deli with your sister 20 years from now as you thought you would?
How many times have you promised yourself you're going to "sort out your finances and get fitter in the new year"?
Probably about as many times as you've watched your favourite film... What is it by the way?
Falling in love, learning to trust again, giving up on elements of your life that you realise you don't actually enjoy anymore is not to be underestimated.
It could hurt, cue relentless sobbing in the shower or when you just woke up.
You can feel massively discombobulated - my current mood 4 weeks into living in France.
Transformation is necessary, it's the only way to truly move forward. But it doesn't have to be this huge.
You can transform how you manage your money, when you realise you don't want to be skint again next Christmas, still feel worried about it 5 years from now or tell yourself that you're "no good with money" or "your partner deals with it all" while secretly resenting them.
Managing your money does not have to be complicated or stressful.
You're not falling in love & losing emotional control, you're grabbing hold of something tangible & taking control.
Ironically it will gift you the feeling of emotional & mental wellbeing; the 7 elements combine to create balance.
Mental, emotional, financial, spiritual, physical, social & environmental all matter to each of us in unique ways. Dropping the ball on your finances can have a dangerous knock on effect to your mental health not to mention your environment, feeling unsafe or feeling insecure.
So what's stopping you?
It feels too huge?
It feels so alien?
You're already crammed full every day all day with living, you can't add anything else in?
But, when your finances underpin much of your life, surely, somethings gotta give?
Grab a free 20 minutes with me to see if a simple ebook & spreadsheet will do the trick or if a mentoring session could support you. Sometimes, a bit of reassurance is all you need that you're doing ok or another resource entirely:
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Until next time, à bientôt
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